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Learning To Say No Without Feeling Guilty

Tom C
1 min readMay 15, 2022

Is hard.

I was supposed to be meeting friend today. A friend who is dear to me but has neediness issues. I was not in the mood. All I wanted, needed, was to have a day to myself.

A day to visit bookshops and read in bed with no plan or agenda.

So I cancelled the meeting. It didn’t go well. It left me feeling guilty and co-dependent.

I felt it. I felt my super ego attacking me for being a let down. For not caring about others and putting my needs first.

It’s a physical feeling in my chest.

But I sat with it. It passed. I told myself that today I’m putting my needs first.

This goes against all of my conditioning. My upbringing.

But I did it. It was the right thing to do.

I can do it again.

Tom C