How many times have you agreed to do something only to seethe with resentment afterwards? Resentment for being too weak to say no. Angry because you didn’t stand up for yourself…
If this is a common occurrence then you may be a people pleaser. A part of you will do anything to avoid confrontation.
It stems from all kinds of stuff but essentially it boils down to fear of abandonment. The fear that we can’t make it alone. This fear is so strong that we agree to do things that we 100% do not want to do and lessen ourselves in the process.
What do we do about it? Whatever it takes. Learn to say no to doing things you don’t want to do. Scary at first, but life-changing.
Go easy on yourself as you begin. Start small. Grow stronger.